Man has 31-year-old pregnant sister stay with him after eviction, throws tantrum when he won't let her sleep in his bed: 'She is lucky I can even take her in, since I work 10 hours a day from home'

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Mar 13, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

Most people feel a responsibility to help a close family member if they are going through a hard time. After all, that is what family is supposed to be for, if you listen to what many say. Nonetheless, how you help your family (if at all) and the lengths you will go to do that are heavily dependent on more than just an obligation to be nice. There are many factors to consider.

While it is unfortunate, it can be very common for people to act in entitled ways towards family members. Any reason to take more than they are owed is acted upon. It can be something that is difficult to deal with for those around them, not least if they are in a situation where it looks like the person offering help is suddenly being unreasonable. It can bring a lot of unpleasant relationship dynamics to the forefront.

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  • One man found this out when he agreed to let his pregnant sister stay with him for a couple of weeks after she unexpectedly moved out of her apartment. While fine with the arrangement at first, she began to complain that the spare room wasn't comfortable enough and that she wanted to sleep in his bed instead. 

    Her behavior escalated, and it led to her brother snapping at her. Their family was not pleased with him after she told them about the situation, and he wasn't sure if he was justified in his behavior.

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    I (26M) rent a small two-bedroom apartment. I live alone, but I use the second bedroom as my office because I work from home full-time. My older sister, "Lily" (31F), is 6 months pregnant and soon to be single mother. She has some issues with her apartment (in a disagreement with her landlord, and in the process of moving out), so she asked if she could stay with me for a few weeks. Of course, I said yes and that I would be happy to accomodate her for as long as she needs. She moved in last week
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    Now I'm a little bit of a germophob, and I am quite uncomfortable with the idea of other people sleeping in my bed. I told her that I am uncomfortable letting anyone else sleep in my bed. But I will gladly set her up with my guest bed (which I did use to sleep on before buying my current bed, and I know for a fact is very comfortable and spacious). Then, she started guilt tripping me saying that since she got pregnant she's having problems falling asleep and that she needs the bigger more comfor
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    I stood my ground and told her I was happy to accommodate her, but I wasn't giving up my bedroom. She sulked, but she took the guest bed. That lasted exactly two nights before she started complaining that the bed was "too stiff" and that she "couldn't sleep." I offered to buy a new mattress topper, but she refused. Instead, she tried to pull the "you're my brother, you should want to make me comfortable" guilt trip again... I told her that she is lucky I can even take her in, since I work 10 hou
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    She called me selfish and accused me of not caring about her or her baby. I told her she could take the couch if the guest bed was that unbearable. Well, she did... but exactly for 1 night before turning into an absolute menace. In the second night on the couch, she made sure to sigh loudly all night, "accidentally" bump into things, and complain the next morning about how "horrible" I was making her feel.
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    The following day, she kept making calls and talking loudly on the phone while I was working. I didn't pay attention to the actual calls and what she was saying, but later it became very clear... In the evening I started getting phone calls from most if not all of my family members. Apparently, she was ranting all day on the phone to my family about how r de and how horrible I was making her feel, trying to make my family put pressure on me just to let her sleep in my bed... Like she's on a miss
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    My mom took her side and tore me a new one on the phone saying that Lily is carrying a child and I'm being inconsiderate, she also said "I thought I taught you better hospitality than this, I am very disappointed" My aunt called to tell me that my uncle (her husband) used to sleep on the couch and sometimes on the floor next to her when she was pregnant. Even my cousin (who I haven't spoken to in like 2 years) called to tell me I'm being selfish. My father is taking my side telling me to ignore
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    Honestly I'm just feeling like I'm in the middle of a soap opera drama. My mom is threatening to come take Lily home (yea like that's much of a threat haha) but she's giving me such a hard time and telling me I disappointed her and that she raised me better.. I don't know how to feel about this anymore.. AITAH for not letting my pregnant sister sleep in my bed?
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    Outside observers took his side.

    FunProfessional570 Get her out of your house ASAP. You're going to end up with her in your room, baby in guest room and you're going to be sleeping on the couch. Check your lease and tenancy laws. Do not let her use your address for mail. Seriously, get her out before she gives birth. Ship her off to mom.
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    Spoedi-Probes NTA Tell your sister, your Mom has offered to let her stay, so "pack your bags if the guest bed is uncomfortable". Everyone who has called, call them back and ask when they intend to pick up your sister to stay with them.
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    BurgerThyme No "ifs." Just tell her to pack up because she's staying with Mom and Dad now.
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    sparksgirl1223 As much as I agree with "send her to mommy", I say don't wait for mommy to come get her. Stuff her things in your vehicle and tell her to get in. Take her to mom/dad and unload her stuff in the yard. Walk in and tell mom that since she's DEMANDED your BED and made working (thus earning the money for the beds that aren't good enough for her) extremely difficult, she will now be staying with them and they can work it out amongst themselves. Signed: Someone who's had to do this.
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    Inevitable_Pie9541 NTA. Your sister getting evicted is on her, not you. Her getting pregnant is on her, and the baby's father: BTW, why isn't he giving her a home? No-one who's reduced themselves to living off the kindness of a family member has a right to act so spoilt and entitled. Let the prospective grandparents give her a nice soft bed, she's got no right to yours.
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    StructureKey2739 Tell each and every one of your family members calling to bɩ you that you'll be happy to tell dear entitled sis that they've offered their homes and the pick of whatever she wants. Then hang up and give sis their addresses. Her demanding your bedroom is the first step in staying permanently with you paying for everything. Get her out now or you'll be also supporting your nibling.
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    curiousjosh Have your mom take her home. Problem solved. NTA.
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    judgingA-holes NTA - Beggars can't be choosers. When she called you selfish, you should have called her ungrateful. You're mom, aunt, or cousin can take her and give them their bed if they would like. My aunt called to tell me that my uncle (her husband) used to sleep on the couch and sometimes on the floor next to her when she was pregnant. "Well auntie, I'm not sis's baby daddy now am I? So while I'm glad your husband and father of your child was fine with sleeping on the couch or floor, it's
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    Desert-Grimworm Your sister is trying to take over your apartment and move you into the guest room. Don't let her. Isn't it interesting that entitled people always accuse you of being selfish when you set a boundary and say no. NTAH
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    ContributionOrnery29 NTA. I'd tell everybody that they are welcome to provide their own beds to her but you aren't here to treat her like a queen, or fill in for the lack of a father. You are solely here to ensure she isn't on the streets until she can leave at the earliest convenience. She isn't a guest, she wasn't invited, she came asking and was given the terms already. If those terms are no longer to her liking she can move out. If people continue to give you a hard time over not changing th
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    Silverstorm007 NTA And mums offered to take her back. I'd be telling mum you actually think that's a great offer, as you need your work space back as her loud calls were interrupting your work. Also mention that the guest bed is more than ample for what she required but if her lodgings aren't to her taste then it's best she leaves to go to their place. Let her go to her mummy's place.
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    Present-Pen-5486 Get her out of your house before she has that baby or you will be raising them both!
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    Wondeful_Guidance_6 Pack her bags and leave them outside for your mom to pick up while maintaining the "oh no" pikachu face the whole time. She made a decision to be a single pregnant woman, her actions. She needs to learn resilience if she is going to be raising a child alone.
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    Cali_Holly NTA Scenario has nothing to do with the bed. This is nothing more than a sibling power play. Sister wants to take over her brother's apartment which means she wants his bedroom. It's malicious on her part. And since she's an adult and she's acting like a really bad guest. Then Brother needs to tell her to pack her bags and go to mom's. Since she isn't grateful for her brother allowing her to stay with him. And tattling to family? At that point. She is being disrespectful and has overs
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